Kirsten S. Blacketer on Balancing Being a Writer and a Busy Woman
Being a stay-at-home mom was my full time job for the last nine years. This past September my youngest started Kindergarten. My days were finally my own again. I could finally dedicate all my focus on writing again while hubby and the kids were out of the house.
But when I first decided to pursue my writing, I didn't have that free time. I had to designate specific times to writing and the rest of the time to my family. I'm not going to lie; it was difficult to do and frustrating to boot.
Let me share a few of the tips I found worked for me when trying to find a balance between family time and writing time. Even if you don't have a family nagging at you every time you sit down to write, these tips can still apply. I know many busy career-minded women who don't dedicate the time to write like they really want to.
1. Give yourself an hour every day to write. One hour, be it early in the morning before everyone gets up or after everyone goes to bed in the evening. Give yourself that time to get some words on the page.
2. Carry a notebook with you. You never know when an idea will strike you. So keep a notebook or something with you to jot down the ideas as the strike.
3. Treat yourself. I have a daily word count of 2,000 words a day. I don't always meet it, but when I do, I treat myself to something be it a snack I've been craving or a chance to read that story that's been gathering dust on my iPad. (Wait, can they gather dust?)
3. Set a realistic goal. You're a busy mom or business woman, either way, you have to find a goal that works to fit your life. If it's only 500 words a day, then do that. If it's 2,000 words a day, then shoot for that number. But remember to find something that works for you and your schedule without feeling overwhelming.
4. Don't beat yourself up if you don't write today. Remember we all have those days we just want to collapse into bed fully clothed and sleep for sixteen hours straight. I've been there, done that. Give yourself grace for that day and pick up the next day right where you left off. But if you have too many of these days, you might want to slow down a bit, cause it doesn't sound healthy to be working so hard for such a long period of time. Take care of you first. <3
5. I have some friends who spend all day on the computer for work. The last thing they want is to sit in front of it to write even though they want to write desperately. Two choices here. Either you can use a voice recorder and record your story that way. Or you can go somewhere without a TV screen or computer monitor for miles, like your local coffee shop, and handwrite in a notebook for an hour or two. It takes longer both ways, but you're able to dedicate time to your goal of writing.
I hope these tips can help you in some way. Happy writing!
A spirited country girl at the mercy of a silent thief harboring a dangerous secret.
Working at the inn Judith fears a constant state of boredom. One snowy night, three strange gentlemen appear and topple her quiet haven into chaos. The leader kidnaps her sister, leaving her under the stern eye of his silent compatriot. Her sister had warned her one day she'd cross the line. With him, that doesn't take more than a frying pan to the head.
Simon detests disorder. Edmund charged him with one mission: find the jewels. But he never counted on a feisty, curvaceous hellcat standing in his way. She demands to be reunited with her sister in London, and Simon is more than willing to leave her on his friend's doorstep. When she's kidnapped at King's Cross Station, he must summon all his unsavory resources to find the woman who unwittingly stole his heart.
As she washed the handful of dishes, Judith lost herself in thought. When the door to the kitchen swung open, she jumped and spun around, nearly dropping the bowl in her hand. She pressed a soapy hand to her chest to still her fluttering heart and glanced up.
The silent stranger stood in the center of the room, his gaze slowly moving along the walls. It slid past her without hesitation. Judith frowned.
"You're about to drive me bloody insane," she said through gritted teeth before turning back to her task. She finished the rest of the dishes, dried them, and put them away.
He never wavered from his task. When she passed him to put the pot on the shelf, his gaze fell on her for a brief moment. Before she could even discern the color of his eyes, he turned his back to her.
"Bloody knob," Judith swore as she passed him again. His scent of leather mingling with notes of tobacco and vanilla blended with the familiar aroma of baked bread. Stopping behind him, she suppressed the urge to bury her face in his coat. Her eyes drifted closed, and she inhaled, drawing the scents deep, letting them linger.
When she opened her eyes, a pair of smoky hazel eyes stared at her. The faint shadow of a beard highlighted his jaw. His sharp features accentuated by the way his black hair slicked back into a queue.
"Fetch me some of that stew."
Judith blinked twice, unsure if she heard him correctly or not.
"You can talk. Saints above, would it hurt you to polish your manners?" She pushed past him and reached for the ladle. Her hand hovered over the spoon, and then she dropped it to her side to hide the tremor. Her heart hammered in her chest as she turned back to him and met his cool expression with a scowl.
Judith propped her hands on her hips. "Tell me where my sister is first. You can at least do that much. I deserve to know where she is and if she's even safe..." The words died on her lips as he reached into his coat pocket and withdrew a dangerous looking silver pistol.
"The stew, and bread too." He leveled the barrel at her and cocked the hammer.
Judith swallowed the scream clawing at the back of her throat. With a nod, she ladled the stew into a large bowl and cut a loaf of bread in half. The knife nearly slipped from her grip. She pinched her eyes closed for a moment, refusing to look up and see the hollow barrel pointed at her head. Once she set the meal on the counter before her, she backed away without a word and wiped her hands on her apron in an attempt to hide their trembling.
He uncocked the revolver and slid it back beneath his coat. Without another word, he picked up the food and retreated into the parlor.
When the door swung shut, Judith dropped boneless to the floor. Her heart hammered in her chest as her hands shook.
A gun! He pointed a gun at me. She buried her face in her hands and felt the hot tears against her palms.
"Jess, what the hell have you done to me?"
Stick her in the middle of a chaotic home with two children, a hyperactive dog, and a camouflage-wearing husband, and she can cook and clean with the best of them. But when the sun goes down and the children are nestled in bed fast asleep, she tucks away her pots and broom and like Cinderella she transforms.
Her characters creep forth from the dark recesses of her mind taking their places in the castles and forests built from her words. No simpering heroines linger there with forlorn gazes turned to the horizon, waiting for their Prince Charming. They straighten their spine, arming themselves with blade and bow, prepared to do their part in defense of their honor and destiny. She breathes life into the women she believes our ancestors to be, showing how they lived and loved with passion and grace.
Never bored by the tales still left to tell, she battles the ever-sarcastic muse in her quest for romance.